Cartagena as a Rorshach test

When in conversations with people who have come here from the US, I am finding that their reaction to living here is less about Cartagena and more about how they are feeling in their lives at the moment. I know that it is easy to point to the external and say, "If only there was this and that, I would be happier." Some of the criticisms of Cartegena I have heard:

"There is not much to do here. It's boring."
"There are not enough activities for children."
"The lines at the grocery store are ridiculous and annoying."
"The traffic is terrible. People don't know how to drive."
"The mall is tiny."
"It's not a third world country. It's fourth world."

Okay, I am here almost four months now. I would not consider myself a Pollyanna type person. I think I am pretty realistic about how I experience my life. I want to address these criticisms based on my experiences:

"There is not much to do here. It's boring."- I have heard estimates that over 300 cruise ships visit Cartagena each year, there are many hotels, resorts and restaurants that cater to tourists from all over South America and the world. Now, I ask you, why would so many people come here if there is not much to do? I have not even begun to explore all the site seeing that can be done here. There is the old city, forts, museums, churches and so on. It is true that Cartagena is not a large city, however, it is a city full of richness and beauty if you want to find it and appreciate it.

"There are not enough activities for children."-Really? I know there are soccer leagues, sailing, bowling, dance classes, art classes, wrestling, taekwondo, swimming,  and baseball available here for children and adults. Not to mention the pools in each building and the beach. My children have gone sailing and my son wrestles with a local Colombian recreation team, which my husband helps coach. So, I am not sure what activities are lacking for children. I heard one parent lament, "There aren't any amusement parks." Um. Okay. Is that really the only thing for children to do? Amusement parks? It is clear that I experience the world differently from some of the ex-patriots around me. I only went to amusements parks a handful of times in the States, it was never a favorite of mine and so it is not the first thing I think of when I think of fun for children. I do understand that some people love amusement parks and experience them as a childhood activity. However, we are in a place without them, so my suggestion is to find something else that may be new and fun for your child to do.

"The lines at the grocery store are ridiculous and annoying."- The person who said this has clearly never been to a suburban NJ grocery store and stood in line for upwards of 45 minutes. ( a common occurrence during weekends and before a snowstorm or holiday) The longest I have ever stood in line at the grocery store here is 15 minutes, hardly unreasonable.

"The traffic is terrible. People don't know how to drive." -Yeah, okay. Drive in New York City, Boston, Chicago and Cairo, Egypt; then come back and tell me that people here are unusual.

"The mall is tiny."- Hahahaha. This one is humorous because actually the mall is a decent size meaning it has more than ten stores, to me that is an adequate size mall. Also, I have lived in Jamestown, North Dakota. That  was a tiny mall.

"It's not a third world country. It's fourth world."-We have running water and electricity all the time. We are way ahead of most of the planet.

Okay, my point is not that Cartagena is perfect, my point is no place on this planet is perfect. Cartagena is charming and rich in diversity and culture, if you care to see the beauty. I have met and become friends with Colombians who are kind, gentle and generous. I have also run into some Colombians who are aggressive drivers and some who are not so nice. In general, I will say that my experience of the Colombian people is that they are humble and appreciative of people from the US coming here to work. I wish I could say that most of the US was just as appreciative of immigrants coming to work there.
I have a friend from the US Navy living here who received this advice from a Colombian Navy Officer: "See Colombia with the eyes of a bee." When she asked what that meant he said, "When you see Colombia with the eyes of a bee, you will see the honey, if you see Colombia with the eyes of a fly, you will only see the shit."
I have realized that the people who are only full of criticism of this place are choosing to look at it through the eyes of a fly instead of the eyes of a bee.
I choose to be the bee.